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Things are slowing down after an extremely hectic weekend. In spite of all the nasty stuff that has occurred in the past few days, I can’t help but think that this is all happening for a reason. With every crisis that occurs in our relationship, Chris and I open up more avenues of communication with one another. And helping her dig herself out of this pit is the best test of patience I’ve ever had.

We’re getting along, though. I decided to clean up our old pots and plant some new plants. I find gardening in general–even if it is out of pots–to be extremely therapeutic. It may have something to do with my roots in farming or that eternal bond that man has with the earth. Whatever it is, Chris seemed to enjoy it, too.

In spite of the burgeoning financial stress, everything seems alright. My priorities have shifted and I’m being reminded every day of what really matters to me. Things I used to fret about endlessly are taking backseat to the stuff I find truly important to me. I remember reading about a book somewhere that classified tasks into four categories:

Essential: Immediate (finishing the paper that’s due tomorrow, getting to work on time)
Essential: Not Immediate (hobbies, relaxation, relationships)
Non-essential: Immediate (the TV show that’s on tonight, reading the paper)
Non-essential: Not Immediate (polishing off that book, trying out a new recipe)

I also remember that the author claimed that, while we spend most of the time in the first and third categories, the really important stuff comes from the second and fourth categories. Upon some further reflection, I think he/she is right. My priority-shift is reflecting this and I can say that I feel comfortable with the direction my life is taking, even though it seems aimless right now.