Comments on: Waiting http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/ the weblog of Jesse Schwebach Fri, 21 Nov 2008 08:38:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Christopher http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-513 Christopher Sun, 11 May 2008 22:30:38 +0000 http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-513 First of all, stop paying too much on overrated beer, drink wine, second of all, I have gone through this, it does not get easier. It just does not. I wish I could tell you I am fine with my decision, but really, not a day goes by that I do not wish I had a time machine so that I could go back and do things differently, and now, the pressure is building, I have to get into law school yesterday because my daughter is already a year old and soon will be the need to think about her education (right about the time I should be finishing mine). Now, your circumstances are different, but I will tell you this - never ever allow yourself to play the regret game. It serves no purpose, look back on what you did (Lyon) and laugh and be happy - you did it, you had fun, and you have stories and experiences to share. Focus on the future while still allowing yourself some space to mess around. 401(k)'s will be there after you stay up past your bedtime reading horrible pulp fiction (just do not do it every night). You'll be fine, I would be more worried if you did not feel this way at 25, really, it happened to me too (and now I a 26). First of all, stop paying too much on overrated beer, drink wine, second of all, I have gone through this, it does not get easier. It just does not.

I wish I could tell you I am fine with my decision, but really, not a day goes by that I do not wish I had a time machine so that I could go back and do things differently, and now, the pressure is building, I have to get into law school yesterday because my daughter is already a year old and soon will be the need to think about her education (right about the time I should be finishing mine).

Now, your circumstances are different, but I will tell you this - never ever allow yourself to play the regret game. It serves no purpose, look back on what you did (Lyon) and laugh and be happy - you did it, you had fun, and you have stories and experiences to share.

Focus on the future while still allowing yourself some space to mess around. 401(k)’s will be there after you stay up past your bedtime reading horrible pulp fiction (just do not do it every night).

You’ll be fine, I would be more worried if you did not feel this way at 25, really, it happened to me too (and now I a 26).

]]> By: Jesse http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-511 Jesse Fri, 09 May 2008 22:32:27 +0000 http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-511 Ryan, thanks for the reassurance. I do realize that many of today's dominant conventions are of little value to someone like me. On the other hand, grappling with the feelings of alienation that one experiences when you shed said conventions can be hard on your Dasien. As much as I'd like to embrace the Nietzschean ubermensch motif, it doesn't always work for me. Ryan, thanks for the reassurance.

I do realize that many of today’s dominant conventions are of little value to someone like me. On the other hand, grappling with the feelings of alienation that one experiences when you shed said conventions can be hard on your Dasien. As much as I’d like to embrace the Nietzschean ubermensch motif, it doesn’t always work for me.

]]> By: Ryan http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-510 Ryan Fri, 09 May 2008 15:05:27 +0000 http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-510 Sounds more like an existential crisis. I too battle with what society wants me to do and what I would most rather do. Unfortunately we are a small cog in a very complicated machine that is far greater than we are. The individual, to an extent will have to conform in order to “fit” into the stereotypical successful person. Wife, kids, house in the ‘burbs’,freshly cut lawn. However, as a philosopher you must realize all this is merely a charade masking a materialistic and hollow paradigm. This version of success doesn’t automatically equate to happiness for most people. There’s more to one way to live a wonderful existence. However, it seems societal pressure is at least somewhat important to you, so find a middle ground. Pursue a career so one day you can afford life’s necessities, and perhaps a few luxuries (ability to travel etc). Find something your passionate about so going to work isn’t a chore... but NEVER give up your dreams or your interests because they don’t fit this illusory mold. Life is a game that only stops becoming interesting when you decide to throw in the towel. I graduate Sunday with a degree in managerial marketing. I’m up shit creek more you pal! Good luck. Sounds more like an existential crisis. I too battle with what society wants me to do and what I would most rather do. Unfortunately we are a small cog in a very complicated machine that is far greater than we are. The individual, to an extent will have to conform in order to “fit” into the stereotypical successful person. Wife, kids, house in the ‘burbs’,freshly cut lawn. However, as a philosopher you must realize all this is merely a charade masking a materialistic and hollow paradigm. This version of success doesn’t automatically equate to happiness for most people. There’s more to one way to live a wonderful existence. However, it seems societal pressure is at least somewhat important to you, so find a middle ground. Pursue a career so one day you can afford life’s necessities, and perhaps a few luxuries (ability to travel etc). Find something your passionate about so going to work isn’t a chore… but NEVER give up your dreams or your interests because they don’t fit this illusory mold. Life is a game that only stops becoming interesting when you decide to throw in the towel.

I graduate Sunday with a degree in managerial marketing. I’m up shit creek more you pal! Good luck.

]]> By: JB http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-490 JB Wed, 30 Apr 2008 17:24:55 +0000 http://schweblog.com/2008/04/29/waiting/#comment-490 Ennui on steroids. For the record, putting off a career by going to school is very acceptable. It's called accumulating intellectual capital. Much more exciting than discussing a 401K while quaffing overrated beer. Go for it! You should get in touch with Brett. She finished Parallax, by the way. Ennui on steroids. For the record, putting off a career by going to school is very acceptable. It’s called accumulating intellectual capital. Much more exciting than discussing a 401K while quaffing overrated beer. Go for it!

You should get in touch with Brett. She finished Parallax, by the way.

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